INTRODUCTION TO THE STUDY OF TIRUVALLUVAR
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A Lecture by Prof.Avvai Duraisami Pillai
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Part – 108
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Further she realises that none will be worthy of sincere friendship, if one’s mind is otherwise disposed, and the reason why her mind which is des~ perately in love with her soul, always thinks of the noble virtue of her husband is tbat it will ultimately bring disgrace if he is spoken ill of.
எள்ளின் இனிவாம் என்றெண்ணி அவர்திறம்
உள்ளும் உயிர்க்காதல் நெஞ்சு (117)
Most of the romantic novels written by our contemporary writers begin with the love of the hero and heroine and after dealing with the obstacles on their way, conclude in the winning of the heroine by the hero or in the reconciliation of the hero and heroine. But., in our practical life, this is the beginning and not the end. As a matter of fact, “people in love usually marry an idealised image of each other and afterwards they have to learn the real person they have married”. The newly married couple mast gradually adapt their” personalities to each other and their mental love helps them with patience and understanding. Of these two. to be coquettish is the natural instinct of the wife and, like all women in general, she desires always to be pursued and conquered, but at the same time, she Is too contrarians or too shy to be able to show it. This tendency very often Thales the loving couple treat each other with a kind of cold reserve of sulkiness or petulance. In the beginning, the sulkiness formed by the innate desire of being pursued intensifies the love in the mind of the loving wife and the husband and increases the pleasure of their physical union. In this sulking mood, a wife may be cold and almost antagonistic but she can be thawed by the skillful art of love making. Valluvar, we know, is dead against entertaining any kind of hostility even in a playful mood. He therefore examines the propriety of this petulance and pronounces his opinion. He compares this to the seasoning of food with salt. Just as adequate seasoning renders the food very palatable and any excess completely spoils it, so also the sulkiness on the part of the wife, if prolonged, defeats its purpose and perhaps leads to danger.
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